What Do You Say? - How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a

Informationen zum Autor William Stixrud, PhD, and Ned Johnson Klappentext A guide to effectively communicating with teenagers by the bestselling authors of The Self-Driven Child If you're a parent, you've had a moment-maybe many of them-when you've thought, "How did that conversation go so badly?" At some point after the sixth grade, the same kid who asked "why" non-stop at age four suddenly stops talking to you. And the conversations that you wish you could have-ones fueled by your desire to see your kid not just safe and healthy, but passionately engaged-suddenly feel nearly impossible to execute. The good news is that effective communication can be cultivated, learned, and taught. And as you get better at this, so will your kids. William Stixrud, Ph.D., and Ned Johnson have 60 years combined experience talking to kids one-on-one, and the most common question they get when out speaking to parents and educators is: What do you say? While many adults understand the importance and power of the philosophies behind the books that dominate the parenting bestseller list, parents are often left wondering how to put those concepts into action. In What Do You Say?, Johnson and Stixrud show how to engage in respectful and effective dialogue, beginning with defining and demonstrating the basic principles of listening and speaking. Then they show new ways to handle specific, thorny topics of the sort that usually end in parent/kid standoffs: delivering constructive feedback to kids; discussing boundaries around technology; explaining sleep and their brains; the anxiety of current events; and family problem-solving. hat Do You Say? is a manual and map that will immediately transform parents' ability to navigate complex terrain and train their minds and hearts to communicate ever more successfully. Leseprobe Chapter 1 Communicating Empathy: A Recipe for Closeness and Connection So often we're asked about the specifics of what parents should say to guide their kids while still giving them room to make their own decisions. Indeed, that's what this book's about-communicating in a way that fosters a healthy sense of control. Our goal in this chapter is to adopt the role of Cyrano de Bergerac, sharing what words might work, and to weave that advice together with a little Robert Sapolsky, explaining the brain science behind why. In our first book, we emphasized the importance of autonomy-of kids having a sense of control over their own lives. Autonomy has a starring role in this book, too, although we focus on how to promote it through conversation. This first chapter, though, steps back to lay the groundwork for future independence, because before we can promote their autonomy, we have to be connected to our kids, and they to us. A strong connection with a parent is the closest thing to a silver bullet for preventing mental health problems in kids. A healthy bond with a parent is a predictor of emotional health and resilience, and it can lessen the impact of even significant adversity on a child's health and, eventually, on their life span. A close relationship with parents allows kids to feel safe, accepted, and respected-which ultimately helps them develop a sense of control and the self-drive that goes with it. Building closeness begins in the first months of an infant's life when parents and other caregivers respond to the baby's needs. Through repeated interactions, infants and toddlers learn that a caregiver can be trusted to feed them, change their diaper, help them fall asleep, and comfort them when they're upset. With a secure attachment, toddlers then use their parents as a safe base from which to explore their world-and to which to retreat if things are too stressful. A secure bond with a caregiver (usually a parent) is the most important outcome of the first eighteen months of life, as children who feel securely bonded to their caregivers have stronger emot...

Produktdetails

• Autoren: Ned Johnson, William Stixrud
• Verlag: Penguin Books USA
• Sprache: Englisch
• Produktform: Taschenbuch
• Erschienen: 16.08.2022
• EAN: 9781984880383
• ISBN: 978-1-984880-38-3
• Seiten: 336
• Abmessung: 140 mm x 211 mm x 20 mm
• Themen: Geisteswissenschaften, Kunst, Musik > Pädagogik > Bildungswesen; Ratgeber > Lebenshilfe, Alltag > Familie