Your Nine Year Old - Thoughtful and Mysterious

Informationen zum Autor Louise Bates Ames, Ph.D. and Carol Chase Haber, M.A. Klappentext What happened to that sunny outgoing child of eight? As parents of nine-year-olds often discover, nine is a tricky age. Children are more distant from Mother and Father; they're more independant and rely on friends for companionship, or they have a tendency to spend time alone. Some nines are boisterous and wild, others thoughtful and withdrawn. Helping parents learn how to cope with the unpredictable nine-year-old is the aim of this practical guide from the Gesell Institute. Nine-year-olds are hovering on the brink of adolescence, and this in part contributes to their up-and-down nature. Dr. Louis Bates Ames and Carol Chase Haber paint a vivid picture of the child at this age and offer useful advice to make life easier for parents and children alike.chapter one   CHARACTERISTICS OF THE AGE   Nine is an intriguing age but one that is a little hard to pin down. This may be because so much of the Nine-year-old child’s behavior is uneven and unexpected. Thus in making designs the child of this age characteristically makes a very small design OR a very large one. Other behaviors are equally unpredictable. Whatever may be said of the child, the exact opposite might be true on another day. This can be confusing to the adult and, we presume, also to the child himself.   Perhaps the outstanding characteristic of the Nine-year-old is the fact that the child is emerging from his long, strong preoccupation with his mother (or other caretaking parent). Whereas at Eight he could not get enough of Mother, now he seems often almost to resent her presence and her demands. Eight depended on, or at least related strongly and warmly to, his mother (and for that matter to other adults). Nine is more independent, more self-motivated. He is a self-starter and once started wishes to continue in his own way, at his own time, in his own direction.   In fact, some Nines are so independent that they like to be “loose on the town” without being checked up on too closely. That is, they like to be allowed to play for a few hours without giving too specific information as to where they are going and what they are doing. Or to spend money that doesn’t have to be accounted for. Nine may do best if allowed considerable independence and if given considerable responsibility.   Eight is one of the more characteristically expansive ages. The Eight-year-old is all over the place, speedy, sure. Nine is more anxious, more withdrawn, less certain, less speedy.   Though he does not cover as much ground, at least not as quickly, as he did a year earlier, he is still into everything. His interests are so varied and so numerous that his days are almost too full. Each afternoon is filled with some activity—music lessons, sports, Cub Scouts or Brownies, choir practice—always something. He is driven by time but hates to give up anything.   Nine takes himself and his occupations very seriously, and wants to do things just right. A new sign of his maturity is that he can interrupt himself (or be interrupted), take a little side trip, and then return to his original occupation. He can keep his mind on what he is doing even when something interrupts. In fact, most Nines not only can finish a project—whether it is a book or a quarrel—but need to finish it after they have been interrupted.   We have described Nine as an embroidery age. Thus some children, at least some of the time, need to elaborate on their productions and are not satisfied till they have put in every last flourish or curlicue. They do this not just to get praise, as may have been the case at Eight, but to satisfy their own inner demands. In fact, in this as in other ways, Nine is remarkably independent. It is as if the child at this age is using a more delicate mechanism than just earlier. In many situations a girl or boy mak...

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• Autori: Louise Bates Ames, Carol C. Haber, Carol Chase Haber, Frances L. Ilg
• Editore: Dell Publishing Inc.
• Lingue: Inglese
• Formato: Tascabile
• Pubblicazione: 01.03.1991
• EAN: 9780440506768
• ISBN: 978-0-440-50676-8
• Pagine: 176
• Dimensioni: 136 mm x 202 mm x 10 mm
• Categoria: Guide e manuali > Libri sul benessere, vita quotidiana > Famiglia