Getting Over Ourselves - Moving Beyond a Culture of Burnout, Loneliness, and Narcissism

PRAISE FOR GETTING OVER OURSELVES "A timely and thorough exploration of how we can let go of societal expectations and connect to our true self through humility, embodiment and rediscovering a sense of awe and wonder in the world around us."
-LODRO RINZLER, author of books including The Buddha Walks into a Bar, The Buddha Walks into the Office and Take Back Your Mind: Buddhist Advice for Anxious Times, and co-founder of MNDFL meditation studios "Congleton's touching stories, research base, and practical nudges offer an elegantly written invitation to embrace the interdependence of self and system, eschewing what has become a norm of self-striving. She gives us hope that our warm embrace will result in good company on the journey of learning, unlearning, growth, and ultimately rebuilding a thriving society for all."
-ELISE FOSTER, executive coach and co-author, The Multiplier Effect and Beautiful Questions in the Classroom "In a world of disquiet and disconnection, this book provides a critical lens on how to focus inward so we can connect with others in more meaningful ways. Christina Congleton provides a rich tapestry of scholarship, woven together in an accessible way, with actionable guideposts, so that we can become the heroes of belonging we desperately need and yearn for. If the next generations of leaders are going to effectively navigate the challenges we will all inevitably face, we need accessible resources to support our learning, growth, and development. In Getting Over Ourselves, Christina Congleton provides one such text. As a result of her vision for and commitment to a better world, we now have a brilliant book that illuminates why change is necessary and how we each might strategically transform ourselves to be more meaningfully connected inward-and outward."
-JONATHAN KROLL, founder and executive director, Leadership Trainer; author of Preparing Leadership Educators: A Comprehensive Guide to Theories, Practices, and Facilitation Skills

Sommario

Acknowledgments xi
Introduction 1
Part I The Urgency to Get Over Our Selves 5
1 A World on Edge 7
Paradise Burning 8
Stressed to Death 12
A Failed Prediction 15
Keynes Versus Hayek 17
The Heart and Soul of Neoliberalism 24
2 Lost Heroes 29
Selfie Generation 32
Lonely Generation 38
Burnout Generation 42
Lost Generation 47
Another Failed Prediction? 51
3 Spirals of Change 55
What Was Enlightenment? 56
From Enlightenment to the Dog Whisperer 58
Tracing the Path of Human Development 61
The Opportunist (Self-Sovereign Mind) 64
The Diplomat and Expert (Socialized Mind) 66
The Achiever (Self-Authoring Mind) 71
Toxic Achieverism 72
Spiral to Arc 74
4 Wandering at an Apex 77
The Self-Questioning Transformer 77
Navigating the Postmodern Terrain 82
Neoliberal Quicksand 87
Destroy This Model 88
Slipping Through the Cracks 89
Part II Un-self Help 93
5 Selfies and Self-Realization
Guidepost 1: From Self-Perfection to the Wisdom of Humility 95
Narcissism as Mistaken Identity 96
Default Mode 100
Narrative Versus Minimal Self 102
The True Meaning of Humility 105
The Richness of Self-Realization 107
Anchoring in the Practice of Embodiment 109
6 Loneliness and Oneness
Guidepost 2: From Separateness to the Wisdom of Interdependence 117
Physical Interdependence: Bodies of Multitudes 118
Psychological Interdependence: The Resonant Brain 125
Spiritual Interdependence: The Garment of Destiny 132
Anchoring in the Practice of Connection 134
7 Burnout and Wholeheartedness
Guidepost 3: From Rationality to the Wisdom of Vulnerability 139
When Your Heart's Not in It 140
Heart as Escape Hatch 145
Mark of the Valkyries 147
Real Compassion 149
Vulnerable Confidence 151
The Heart of Yes and No 153
Anchoring in the Practice of Courage 154
8 Lost and Liberated
Guidepost 4: From Progress to the Wisdom of Openness 159
Dare to Not Know 164
Staying with Uncertainty 166
The Cure in Curiosity 168
Relaxing into Insight 169
The Mindful Brain 173
The Modern Mindfulness Trap 176
Anchoring in the Practice of Wonder 179
Part III Concluding and Beginning 183
9 Friends Between Worlds 185
Calling All Builders 187
Power in Diversity, Diversity in Power 188
Moving Slowly 189
Listening Deeply 191
Loving Fiercely 192
I Don't Want to Move to Mars 193
Room for Alternatives 195
Heroes of Belonging 196
Notes 199
References 203
Recommended Reading 239
About the Author 241
Index 243

Info autore

CHRISTINA CONGLETON is a human development specialist and leadership coach. Her writing has appeared in publications including Harvard Business Review. Christina coaches in private practice with Axon Leadership and partners with consultancies to deliver coaching around the world. She lives outside Denver with her family.

Dettagli sul prodotto

• Autori: Christina Congleton
• Editore: Wiley, John and Sons Ltd
• Lingue: Inglese
• Formato: Tascabile
• Pubblicazione: 30.04.2025
• EAN: 9781394332304
• ISBN: 978-1-394-33230-4
• Pagine: 272
• Categorie: Scienze sociali, diritto, economia > Economia > Management; SELF-HELP / Personal Growth / General, Popular psychology, Relating to early adulthood