Real Boys Workbook - The Definitive Guide to Understanding and Interacting with Boys of

Zusatztext I wish I had read Real Boys when my son was a boy." —Mary Pipher! Ph.D.! author of Reviving Ophelia Informationen zum Autor William S. Pollack, Ph.D. , a clinical psychologist, is an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, director of the Center for Men at McLean Hospital, and a founding member and fellow of the American Psychological Association's Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity. Kathleen Cushman, Ed.D ., co-authored Schooling for the Real World and Circus Dreams: The Making of a Circus Artist , which won the American Library Association's Notable Book Award. Klappentext The Real Boys' Workbook is a unique! instructive workbook! full of advice! exercises! and stories to help parents! professionals! and boys themselves understand boys--and how to make life with them better. How to listen to boys! talk and be with them! exercises to teach you new ways to handle situations! and strategies for coping with problems (drug and alcohol abuse! gender identity! depression! bullies) are addressed! as readers are encouraged to respond to questions and situations! to learn how to think about boys with new understanding! and to react more creatively. Through writing down responses in the workbook! using the charts and summaries! and taking part in the provocative question-and-answer sections! you will gain insight into boys and their problems and be better able to be with them in effective and powerful ways. Chapter 1 Some Dos and Don'ts with Boys Shaming and How to Avoid It * Talking and Listening to Boys * How to Tell When Something's Wrong * Life with Boys: Adult Survival Strategies "I treated my two kids exactly the same," said Marianne. "But by the time my little boy was three years old, he acted so different from his older sister at that age!" Her daughter, Evie, always loved playing in a corner with a friend, "pretending" complex stories that they made up as they went along. Her son Gregory's play relationships, on the other hand, didn't seem to go any farther than knocking down towers of blocks and running around the house screaming like wild men. As Gregory got older, Marianne said, the differences between her children only became more pronounced. "I always swore that my son would be an exception, but I've learned my lesson," she laughed. "You know that rhyme about what little girls and little boys are made of? Well, at seven, Gregory's pretty much all nails and puppy-dog tails. He'd rather wrestle on the rug with his dad than talk to me about his problems at school. I know he needs my support just as much as Evie does, but it's so much easier for me to relate to Evie! I think I end up letting Gregory fend for himself more than I should." Boys are different from girls-partly because their biology is different, but more often because we unwittingly treat them differently from their earliest infancy in what we have described as the Boy Code. (See pages xxi-xxii.) Although there are important exceptions, as a group they tend to be more action-oriented, more confrontive, less quick to communicate verbally and more likely to hide their feelings of tenderness, hurt, or shame. Of course, boys are different from one another, too, as are girls. In fact, many girls share traits with some of the boys described in this book, or some boys may act in the same way girls might act. But as things stand right now in our culture, these patterns describe the ways many boys in fact behave and feel. It's normal that the boys in our lives often present us with problems we may not know how to handle. But there's also something very wrong. Our culture has developed a rigid code of behavior for boys-the Boy Code. If we fall into line with it and enforce it, we lose out on the pleasure of close connections with our boys, and they lose t...

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• Autori: Kathleen Cushman, Mark Ed. Pollack, William Pollack, William S. Pollack
• Editore: Random House USA
• Lingue: Inglese
• Formato: Tascabile
• Pubblicazione: 01.05.2001
• EAN: 9780375755262
• ISBN: 978-0-375-75526-2
• Pagine: 400
• Dimensioni: 188 mm x 231 mm x 25 mm
• Categoria: Guide e manuali > Libri sul benessere, vita quotidiana > Famiglia