Stress Free Discipline: Simple Strategies for Handling Common - Behavior Problem

All children test boundaries (and sometimes your patience).It's a natural part of growing up. Your job as a parent is to let them know what's acceptable and what isn't, praise good behavior, and enforce limits.Easier said than done. Even the best-intentioned parents can find themselves shouting - or capitulating yet again to avoid a scene. Worse, the one-size-fits-all discipline methods experts tout can be too narrow for some concerns.Blending developmental insights with an arsenal of proven techniques, Stress-Free Discipline prepares parents for any challenge: the preschooler who throws a fit...the second-grader who refuses homework...the budding tween who dishes out insults. The book helps determine the root cause, explaining what drives the behavior, why it's usually normal, how to prevent escalations, and how to instill self-control. Once parents grasp the underlying motivation they can select the strategy that fits their child's age, temperament, and issue - including rolemodeling, setting limits, positive reinforcement, negative consequences, disengagement - and deploy it calmly and with confidence. Examples and exercises throughout help readers personalize the authors' advice to their unique situation.Practical, thoughtful, and deeply informative, Stress-Free Discipline is the one book every family needs for a more peaceful and happy home.

Sommario

Contents

Introduction and Philosophy 1
PART I
Understand Discipline from the Inside Out
1 Decode Your Child's Behavior 9
Most Problem Behavior Is Normal 11
Develop Awareness of Influences That Lead to Bad
(and Good) Behavior 19
Understand Your Child's Motives 23
Behavior = Communication 25
2 Apply Universal Strategies 30
Cultivate a Positive Relationship with a Time-In 32
Role-Model Good Behavior 34
Prioritize Your Absolutes 35
Give Good Directions 36
Enforce Limits and Roles 37
Redirect Your Child's Focus 39
Act Like a Coach 39
Hold Practice Sessions 41
Ignore the Problem Behavior 42
Disengage from Behavior Out of Your Control 44
Yell Sparingly 45
Praise Positive Behavior 46
Offer Positive Reinforcement or Rewards 49
Use Negative Consequences Through Punishment 50
Call a Time-Out 53
Insist on an Apology and Restitution 54
PART II
Dealing with Areas of Common Difficulty
3 Tantrums 59
Understand the Source of Tantrums by Age 60
Manage Contributing Factors 61
Deal with Tantrums 66
Use Coaching and Practice Session Strategies
at the Grocery Store 69
Use Disengaging Strategy 72
Understand the Violent Tantrum 73
Reset a Negative Relationship 74
4 Homework 78
Understand Learning Styles 80
Instill a Motivation for Learning 81
Establish a Process for Working Independently 84
Use Positive Reinforcement 92
Effect of Negative Consequences 93
Avoid Unintended Consequences 95
Work with Your Gifted Child 98
5 Mealtime 101
Manage Mealtime Meltdowns 102
Establish a Mealtime Routine and Use Redirection 104
Institute Rules and Use Reinforcement and Restitution 107
Get Your Children to Eat New Foods 111
Develop Strategies for Eating Out at Restaurants 115
6 Bedtime 119
Your Child's Sleep Is Very Important 120
Use Universal Strategies for Bedtime 123
Contend with Childhood Nightmares 130
7 Attitude 134
Contend with Hot-Button Behaviors and Judgment Calls 135
Understand the Intent Behind Behaviors 139
Use Strategies for Battling Attitude Behaviors 142
PART III
Develop Positive Characteristics
8 Impact Your Child's Social Development
and Peer Influence 153
Promote Positive Social Relationships with Peers 154
Manage Access to Peer Influencers 158
Combat Negative Peer-Group Behaviors 160
Use Strategies When Your Child Has Peer-Group Problems 163
Handle Sibling Rivalry 166
9 Instill Resilience and Grit in Your Child 170
Let Your Child Experience Failure 171
Grit Doesn't Mean Being as Tough as Nails 174
Have Confidence and Use Praise 175
Problem-Solve Like a Role Model 178
Store Up Reserves of Resilience for Challenging Times 179
PART IV
Recognize Red Flags
10 Manage Situations That Increase Family Stress 185
Recognize the Symptoms of Stress 186
Maintain Normalcy 190
Separation or Divorce 191
Long-Distance Parenting 194
Illness 195
Financial Problems 198
Moving to a New Home or School 199
New Baby 201
11 Find Professional Help for Your Family 204
Determine Whom to Turn to for Help 206
How to Decide to Call a Professional 210
Recognize When a Behavior Is a Serious Concern 215
12 Conclusion 218
Index 223

Info autore

SARA AU is a mom and a journalist specializing in parenting and health issues.

Riassunto

Many moments in parenting seem unavoidable. Your preschooler will throw fits. Your third-grader will try to get out of doing homework--even if it means lying. A budding tween will dish out insults. And a teenager will simply take off for who knows where. At each stage, they are trying to test your boundaries (and sometimes your patience). While this may be a natural part of growing up, that doesn’t mean any of these actions are acceptable or excusable. So what does a parent do?Stress-Free Discipline knows that the one-size-fits-all discipline methods many experts tout can actually be too narrow for some concerns. Instead, parents need to learn how to determine the root cause behind their child’s issue, which will then help explain what is driving the behavior, why it’s probably more normal than the parent realizes, how to prevent further escalations, and how to instill self-control. Once parents grasp the underlying motivation, they can select the strategy that fits their child's age, temperament, and issue--including role modeling, setting limits, positive reinforcement, negative consequences, disengagement--and deploy it calmly and with confidence. Complete with an arsenal of proven techniques, as well as examples and exercises throughout to help parents personalize to their own unique situation, Stress-Free Discipline is the one-stop resource that will prepare parents for any challenge from any stage. Don’t lead home without it!

Dettagli sul prodotto

• Autori: Sara Au, Sarah Au, Sarah Stavinoha Au, Peter Stavinoha, Peter L. Stavinoha, Ph.D. Stavinoha, Peter Stavinoha Ph. D.
• Editore: Amacon Book Division
• Lingue: Inglese
• Formato: Tascabile
• Pubblicazione: 01.04.2015
• EAN: 9780814449097
• ISBN: 978-0-8144-4909-7
• Pagine: 256
• Serie: UK Professional General Reference
• Categorie: Guide e manuali > Libri sul benessere, vita quotidiana > Famiglia; FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Life Stages / General, FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Parenting / General, SELF-HELP / Self-Management / Stress Management