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Zusatztext Mike Maza The Dallas Morning News [Basco] explains how to recognize and challenge the counterproductive thinking! oversimplifications and overblown expectations of perfectionists! and includes a chapter on how to live with one. Informationen zum Autor Monica Ramirez Basco, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, researcher, teacher, author, and lecturer. She is a professor of psychology at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center at Dallas. She has given dozens of invited addresses and workshops throughout North and South America and Europe and is the author of a book about cognitive behavioral therapy for bipolar disorder. Dr. Basco lives in Dallas, Texas. Klappentext If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be struggling with perfectionistic tendencies. They can serve a positive purpose in your life. But having extremely high standards for yourself and others can leave you feeling let down -- over and over again -- when these expectations aren't met. As psychologist and researcher Monica Ramirez Basco explains, uncontrolled perfectionism can lead to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, fear of failure, and broken marriages and friendships.In Never Good Enough Dr. Basco helps you understand why you feel driven to get things "just right" and shows you how to make the best of your perfectionism. Filled with practical advice, encouragement, and strategies for self-discovery, this invaluable guide includes Dr. Basco's own thirty-question self-test that will help you recognize and manage the negative side of your perfectionism. You will learn how to stop the struggle with yourself and others, how to evaluate your worth and performance in life, and how to replace the pursuit of perfection with peace of mind. From Chapter One: ARE YOU A PERFECTIONIST? Susan had been working frantically for the last month trying to get her end-of-the-year books in order, keep the business running, and plan a New Year´s Eve party for her friends and her clients. A few of her friends who have been supportive of Susan´s interior design business were going to bring along some potential clients. Susan´s home is a reflection of her talent as a designer, so she wanted to make some changes to the formal dining room before the party that she thought would be particularly impressive. It all came together in time for the party and the evening seemed to be going well, until her assistant, Charles, asked her if Mrs. Beale and Mr. Sandoval, two important clients, had arrived. Mrs. Beale had a small antique shop in town and had referred Susan a lot of business over the past two years. Mr. Sandoval was a member of the local Chamber of Commerce and had shown interest in Susan´s business. Susan felt like her head was about to explode when she realized that she had forgotten to invite them to the party. "Oh no, I completely forgot. How could I be so stupid? What am I going to do? They´ll no doubt hear about it from someone and will assume I omitted them on purpose. I am such an idiot. I may as well kiss the business good-bye. When the word gets out, no one will want to refer to me again." "Susan, don´t you think you may be overreacting a little." Charles tried to be supportive, but deep down inside he was glad he hadn´t been the one to make such an awful mistake. For the rest of the night she held her breath waiting for her other clients to ask about Mrs. Beale and Mr. Sandoval. What would she say? That she was a thoughtless numbskull who neglected to invite a former client who referred a substantial amount of business to her each year? Even worse, what will she say when Mrs. Beale and Mr. Sandoval confront her with her rudeness. Ten different excuses ran through her mind, but she ultimately chose to avoid them and their wrath. Susan is an inwardly focused perfectionist. Although it can help her in her work, it also hurts her when she is hard on...
