Ask Me How It Works - Love in an Open Marriage

<''A spectacular memoir written with verve and style'' NANA DARKOA SEKYIAMAH

''A fascinating and big-hearted portrait of sex, intimacy and non-monogamy'' CLOVER STROUD

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Here is my husband.
Here is my boyfriend.
Here I am.

In the early hours of dawn in Amsterdam, Deepa Paul rises from her boyfriend''s bed. She gets dressed, slips away with a kiss and cycles home, where she is welcomed into the arms of her husband, whose contentment is mellow alongside her own. There isn''t a glimmer of shame, deception or guilt, only the honesty and compassion needed to make this kind of life possible -- even if it wasn''t always this easy.

You might have questions. Whose idea was it? What are the rules? Are you ever jealous? In this memoir, Deepa offers her answers openly and tenderly, as she explores the truth to questions of her own. Can I ask for what I want, and still honour the life I have chosen? Do I deserve it? Is it worth it?

Unexpectedly relatable and joyfully vibrant, this is one woman''s story of discovering her own desires and how to liberate them, of shifting identities from mother to lover and back again, and of finding the courage to ask for the marriage she wanted, beyond the marriage she had.

One question at a time.<>

About the author

Deepa Paul is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam. Her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventurer, and herself – all at the same time.

Product details

• Authors: Deepa Paul
• Publisher: Viking
• Languages: English
• Product format: Hardback
• Released: 06.03.2025
• EAN: 9780241698396
• ISBN: 978-0-241-69839-6
• No. of pages: 400
• Dimensions: 145 mm x 224 mm x 35 mm
• Subjects: Fiction > Narrative literature > Letters, diaries; Amsterdam, BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY / Women, SOCIAL SCIENCE / Sociology / Marriage & Family, FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Love & Romance, Memoirs, Relationships and families: advice and issues, Sociology: family and relationships, BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY / Memoirs, Non-monogamy / Polyamorous relationships