Getting Over Ourselves - Moving Beyond a Culture of Burnout, Loneliness, and Narcissism

Move beyond empty "life hacks" to connect with your deepest humanity
 
In Getting Over Ourselves: Moving Beyond a Culture of Burnout, Loneliness, and Narcissism, human development specialist and leadership coach Christina Congleton delivers an insightful and urgently needed discussion of how people can break out of the tired cliches of the self-help genre, and move toward new levels of connection, engagement, and capacity in navigating an uncertain world.
 
In the book, you'll explore how modern attitudes of individualism that were once freeing now converge with environmental destruction, inequality, and an alarming uptick in depression, substance abuse, and suicide to significantly damage the potential of people everywhere. You'll also find concrete strategies--rooted in developmental psychology--that show us new ways to approach these challenging times.
 
Getting Over Ourselves offers:
* Insights into why "life hacks," productivity seminars, and more "adulting" are not the solutions to the issues faced by people today
* Frameworks that reject the idea that there is a separate, solitary self in need of constant improvement, and connect you with your deepest humanity
* Effective techniques for fending off burnout and ways to move beyond the unsatisfactory status quo
 
An essential and timely work, Getting Over Ourselves is the antidote to the skin-deep, ineffective "self-help" material that you've been looking for.

List of contents

Acknowledgments xi
 
Introduction 1
 
Part I The Urgency to Get Over Our Selves 5
 
1 A World on Edge 7
 
Paradise Burning 8
 
Stressed to Death 12
 
A Failed Prediction 15
 
Keynes Versus Hayek 17
 
The Heart and Soul of Neoliberalism 24
 
2 Lost Heroes 29
 
Selfie Generation 32
 
Lonely Generation 38
 
Burnout Generation 42
 
Lost Generation 47
 
Another Failed Prediction? 51
 
3 Spirals of Change 55
 
What Was Enlightenment? 56
 
From Enlightenment to the Dog Whisperer 58
 
Tracing the Path of Human Development 61
 
The Opportunist (Self-Sovereign Mind) 64
 
The Diplomat and Expert (Socialized Mind) 66
 
The Achiever (Self-Authoring Mind) 71
 
Toxic Achieverism 72
 
Spiral to Arc 74
 
4 Wandering at an Apex 77
 
The Self-Questioning Transformer 77
 
Navigating the Postmodern Terrain 82
 
Neoliberal Quicksand 87
 
Destroy This Model 88
 
Slipping Through the Cracks 89
 
Part II Un-self Help 93
 
5 Selfies and Self-Realization
 
Guidepost 1: From Self-Perfection to the Wisdom of Humility 95
 
Narcissism as Mistaken Identity 96
 
Default Mode 100
 
Narrative Versus Minimal Self 102
 
The True Meaning of Humility 105
 
The Richness of Self-Realization 107
 
Anchoring in the Practice of Embodiment 109
 
6 Loneliness and Oneness
 
Guidepost 2: From Separateness to the Wisdom of Interdependence 117
 
Physical Interdependence: Bodies of Multitudes 118
 
Psychological Interdependence: The Resonant Brain 125
 
Spiritual Interdependence: The Garment of Destiny 132
 
Anchoring in the Practice of Connection 134
 
7 Burnout and Wholeheartedness
 
Guidepost 3: From Rationality to the Wisdom of Vulnerability 139
 
When Your Heart's Not in It 140
 
Heart as Escape Hatch 145
 
Mark of the Valkyries 147
 
Real Compassion 149
 
Vulnerable Confidence 151
 
The Heart of Yes and No 153
 
Anchoring in the Practice of Courage 154
 
8 Lost and Liberated
 
Guidepost 4: From Progress to the Wisdom of Openness 159
 
Dare to Not Know 164
 
Staying with Uncertainty 166
 
The Cure in Curiosity 168
 
Relaxing into Insight 169
 
The Mindful Brain 173
 
The Modern Mindfulness Trap 176
 
Anchoring in the Practice of Wonder 179
 
Part III Concluding and Beginning 183
 
9 Friends Between Worlds 185
 
Calling All Builders 187
 
Power in Diversity, Diversity in Power 188
 
Moving Slowly 189
 
Listening Deeply 191
 
Loving Fiercely 192
 
I Don't Want to Move to Mars 193
 
Room for Alternatives 195
 
Heroes of Belonging 196
 
Notes 199
 
References 203
 
Recommended Reading 239
 
About the Author 241
 
Index 243

About the author

CHRISTINA CONGLETON is a human development specialist and leadership coach. Her writing has appeared in publications including Harvard Business Review. Christina coaches in private practice with Axon Leadership and partners with consultancies to deliver coaching around the world. She lives outside Denver with her family.

Summary

Move beyond empty "life hacks" to connect with your deepest humanity

In Getting Over Ourselves: Moving Beyond a Culture of Burnout, Loneliness, and Narcissism, human development specialist and leadership coach Christina Congleton delivers an insightful and urgently needed discussion of how people can break out of the tired cliches of the self-help genre, and move toward new levels of connection, engagement, and capacity in navigating an uncertain world.

In the book, you'll explore how modern attitudes of individualism that were once freeing now converge with environmental destruction, inequality, and an alarming uptick in depression, substance abuse, and suicide to significantly damage the potential of people everywhere. You'll also find concrete strategies--rooted in developmental psychology--that show us new ways to approach these challenging times.

Getting Over Ourselves offers:
* Insights into why "life hacks," productivity seminars, and more "adulting" are not the solutions to the issues faced by people today
* Frameworks that reject the idea that there is a separate, solitary self in need of constant improvement, and connect you with your deepest humanity
* Effective techniques for fending off burnout and ways to move beyond the unsatisfactory status quo

An essential and timely work, Getting Over Ourselves is the antidote to the skin-deep, ineffective "self-help" material that you've been looking for.

Product details

• Authors: Christina Congleton
• Publisher: Wiley, John and Sons Ltd
• Languages: English
• Product format: Hardback
• Released: 07.12.2023
• EAN: 9781394169856
• ISBN: 978-1-394-16985-6
• No. of pages: 272
• Subjects: Guides > Self-help, everyday life > Lifestyle, personal development; Non-fiction book > Politics, society, business > Business administration, companies; Social sciences, law, business > Business > Business administration; Ratgeber Wirtschaft, Business & management, Wirtschaft u. Management, Business Self-Help, Wirtschaft /Ratgeber