Imperfect Parenting - How to Build a Relationship With Your Child to Weather Any Storm

This book presents a model of authoritative parenting that makes room for imperfection, focusing on skills needed to build a strong parent-child relationship.

List of contents

Acknowledgments
Introduction

Chapter 1. Who Are You As a Parent?
Parenting Styles
Good-Enough Parenting
Is Your Child Friendly and Optimistic? Or Fierce and Feisty?
Taking It Into the Community: Positive Connections
Key Takeaways: How to Be a Good-Enough Parent for Your Child

Chapter 2. How Human Beings Make Mistakes, Fix Them, and Grow
Examples of Mistakes People Make
Mindsets
Punishment, Time-Outs, and Consequences
Responding to Mistakes and Misbehavior by Age
Taking It Into the Community: Making Lemonade When Life Gives You Lemons
Key Takeaways: Using a Growth Mindset to Respond to Mistakes and Fix Them

Chapter 3. Accept and Be Mindful: Take a Breath, You Are Enough
Mindfulness Quiz
How Does Mindfulness Work?
Some Examples of Mindfulness in Practice
Mindfulness Meditation: Getting Started
Why It’s Good to Be a Mindful Parent
Relax and Be Happy, Especially if You’re a Mother
How to Be a Mindful Parent
Affirmations and Mantras
How to Nurture Your Child’s Mindfulness
Taking It Into the Community: Being Mindful About Racism and Equity
Key Takeaways: Learning to Be Here Now

Chapter 4. Care For Yourself, and You'll Help Your Child Care for Themself
A Self-Care Quiz
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: 6 to 10
Adolescence: 11 to 18
Young Adulthood: 19 to 24
Taking It Into the Community: Sunnydale Elementary School’s Garden
Key Takeaways: Self-Care Is the Foundation of Everything Else in Life

Chapter 5. Each of Us Is Unique: Brain Building Together
Neural Plasticity
The Early Years: Conception to 5
Childhood: 6 to 10
Adolescence: 11 to 18
Young Adulthood: 19 to 24
How to Support Your Child’s Optimal Brain Development
Taking It Into the Community: Parenting Centers
Key Takeaways for Healthy Brain Building

Chapter 6. Don't Stop Learning: You Can Keep Getting Smarter
Controversies and Misconceptions
What Do IQ Tests Measure?
Abilities Develop
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: 6 to 10
Adolescence: 11 to 18
Young Adulthood: 19 to 24
Taking It Into the Community: Neighborhood Reading Circles
Key Takeaways for Healthy Learning Across the Lifespan

Chapter 7. Nurture Your Creativity and Creative Self-Expression
What Is Creativity?
Some Dimensions of Creativity
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: 6 to 10
Adolescence: 11 to 18
Young Adulthood: 19 to 24
Taking It Into the Community: Creative Problem Solving in Action
Key Takeaways for Weaving Creativity Into Everyday Life

Chapter 8. Choose Love, Positivity, Caring, and Connection
Empathy: Where Kindness, Compassion, and Happiness Begin
Friendship
Self-Control: Staying Calm, Focused, Present, and Reasonable
A Positive Attitude
Happiness
Self-Confidence
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: 6 to 10
Adolescence: 11 to 18
Young Adulthood: 19 to 24
Taking It Into the Community: Taking Social and Emotional Skills to School
Key Takeaways: It’s All About Connection

Chapter 9. Be the Adult in the Room: Not Perfect, but Wise
Complications Quiz
Bullying
Technology: Use Mindfully
Separation and Divorce
Alternative Family Composition
Wise Parenting Practices for Alternative Families
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: 6 to 10
Adolescence: 11 to 18
Young Adulthood: 19 to 24
Complications Quiz Discussion
Taking It Into the Community: Acknowledge Your Wounds, Look for Help, and Reach Out to Others
Key Takeaways: Clearing a Path Toward Wisdom

Chapter 10. We're All in This Together: Listen, Connect, and Collaborate
Advocacy: Making Connections for Making a Difference
Eulogy Virtues Are More Important Than Résumé Virtues
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: 6 to 10
Adolescence: 11 to 18
Young Adulthood: 19 to 24
Taking It Into the Community: Being the Village
Key Takeaways for Weathering the Storms That Life Brings

Notes
Index
About the Author
 

About the author

Dona Matthews, PhD, has worked with children, families, and schools since 99 , and is currently in private practice in Toronto, Canada. She was executive director, Millennium Dialogue on Early Child Development, University of Toronto, and founding director, Hunter College Center for Gifted Studies and Education, City University of New York. She has published widely on child and adolescent development, education, and supporting special needs. She frequently shares with parents ways to practice love and respect during each phase of their child amp rsquo s development, learning and growing alongside their children. Follow Dr. Matthews at her Psychology Today blog, amp ldquo Going Beyond Intelligence. amp rdquo

Summary

Embrace parenting with flexibility and grace, accepting that mistakes foster growth. Drawing from neuroscience and psychology, discover essential skills like acceptance, respect, boundaries, self-care, and gratitude to build a lasting parent-child bond at every stage of life.

Product details

• Authors: Dona Matthews
• Publisher: American psychological assn
• Languages: English
• Product format: Paperback / Softback
• Released: 05.04.2022
• EAN: 9781433837562
• ISBN: 978-1-4338-3756-2
• No. of pages: 400
• Series: APA LifeTools Series
• Subject: Guides > Self-help, everyday life > Family