You Can Change Other People - The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees Even Family Up

Discover how to change the lives of the people around you
 
In You Can Change Other People, the world's #1 executive coach, Peter Bregman, and Howie Jacobson, Ph.D., share the Four Steps to help the people around you make positive change -- even if they've been stuck for years.
 
The authors rely on over 50 years of collective professional experience to show you exactly what to say to influence those around you for the better. Changing the way you talk will stop you from being perceived as a critic, and turn you into a welcomed and effective ally. You'll learn how to:
* Disarm their defensiveness and increase their confidence to act
* Turn people's biggest problems into even bigger opportunities
* Ensure accountability and follow through without making them dependent on you
 
No one wants to be changed; but change and personal growth are critical to success, and more importantly, to a fulfilled life. You Can Change Other People is a must-read for those who want to improve their impact with co-workers, family members, and everyone in between.

List of contents

A New Way to Help People (Because the Old Ways Don't Work)
 
Chapter 1: Brian's $170,000,000 Turnaround
 
Why It's Important to Change Other People
 
Chapter 2: The Four Steps
 
A Quick Tour
 
Chapter 3: Yes I Want That Third Bowl of Ice Cream
 
People Don't Resist Change, They Resist Being Changed
 
Chapter 4: Whose Spreadsheet Is It Anyway?
 
Ownership
 
Chapter 5: Spencer Thinks He's Helping, But He's Not
 
Independent Capability
 
Chapter 6: If You are Willing to Feel Everything, You Can Do Anything
 
Emotional Courage
 
Chapter 7: Change is a Future Thing
 
Future-Proofing
 
SUMMARY OF THE FOUR STEPS [COMP this is a single Section opener, please differentiate from Part openers here and in text]
 
Step 1: Shift from Critic to Ally
 
Chapter 8: The Ramona Problem
 
Become an Ally
 
Chapter 9: Be Your Own Ally First
 
Let Go and Be Present
 
Chapter 10: Then, Become Their Ally
 
Empathize with the Other Person
 
Chapter 11: Silver Platter Opportunities
 
Permission Formula
 
Chapter 12: Do You Have a Minute?
 
You Initiate the Conversation
 
Chapter 13: Hey, I'm in Charge Here
 
The Misguided Reliance on Positional Power
 
Chapter 14: Pitfalls to Avoid
 
How to Stay on Track
 
Step 2: Identify an Energizing Outcome
 
Chapter 15: No More Code, No More Bugs
 
Problems are Signposts Pointing to Energizing Outcomes
 
Chapter 16: A Higher Bar Than a Functional Team
 
A Demo of the Outcome Step
 
Chapter 17: Positive
 
Transform "Don't Want" into "Do Want"
 
Chapter 18: Clear
 
A Technique for Getting to Shared Clarity
 
Chapter 19: Meaningful
 
Getting to What Matters
 
Step 3: Find the Hidden Opportunity
 
Chapter 20: Become a Scientist
 
They're Not Learning From You, They're Learning With You
 
Chapter 21: That Does Sound Exciting!
 
A Demo of the Opportunity Step
 
Chapter 22: Explore the Problem in Depth
 
Question 1: What's Happening Now?
 
Chapter 23: She Argues with Everyone
 
Separating Data from Interpretation
 
Chapter 24: What Worked and What Didn't?
 
Question 2: What Have You Tried?
 
Chapter 25: Thank Goodness for This Problem
 
Question 3: How Can the Problem Get You to the Energizing Outcome?
 
Chapter 26: Keep Your GPS On
 
Pitfalls to Avoid in the Opportunity Step
 
Step 4: Create a Level-10 Plan
 
Chapter 27: Nail the Landing
 
Craft the Plan
 
Chapter 28: Identify Options
 
A Demo for the First Task
 
Chapter 29: Let's Put That on the List. What Else Might You Try?
 
Tips to Help Them Identify Options
 
Chapter 30: Choose
 
A Demo for the Second Task
 
Chapter 31: If You Did Know, What Would It Be?
 
How to Help Them Choose
 
Chapter 32: Commit
 
A Demo for the Third Task
 
Chapter 33: What, How, and When?
 
Skyrocket Their Chances of Success
 
Chapter 34: You Can Change Other People
 
Taking the Four Steps into Your World
 
Acknowledgments
 
About the Authors
 
Index

About the author

PETER BREGMAN is CEO of Bregman Partners and recognized as the ^#1 executive coach by Leading Global Coaches. He leads the Bregman Leadership Coach Training and the Bregman Leadership Intensive, ranked the #1 leadership development program by Global Gurus. He is the bestselling author of five books, including Leading with Emotional Courage and 18 Minutes, a Wall Street Journal bestseller. HOWIE JACOBSON, PHD, is Director of Coaching at Bregman Partners and Head Coach at the Healthy Minds Initiative. He is the host of the Plant Yourself podcast and contributing author of the New York Times bestseller Whole.

Summary

Discover how to change the lives of the people around you

In You Can Change Other People, the world's #1 executive coach, Peter Bregman, and Howie Jacobson, Ph.D., share the Four Steps to help the people around you make positive change -- even if they've been stuck for years.

The authors rely on over 50 years of collective professional experience to show you exactly what to say to influence those around you for the better. Changing the way you talk will stop you from being perceived as a critic, and turn you into a welcomed and effective ally. You'll learn how to:
* Disarm their defensiveness and increase their confidence to act
* Turn people's biggest problems into even bigger opportunities
* Ensure accountability and follow through without making them dependent on you

No one wants to be changed; but change and personal growth are critical to success, and more importantly, to a fulfilled life. You Can Change Other People is a must-read for those who want to improve their impact with co-workers, family members, and everyone in between.

Product details

• Authors: P Bregman, Pete Bregman, Peter Bregman, Peter Jacobson Bregman, Bregman Peter, Howard Jacobson, Howie Jacobson, Howie Bregman Jacobson, Jacobson Howie
• Publisher: Wiley, John and Sons Ltd
• Languages: English
• Product format: Hardback
• Released: 11.11.2021
• EAN: 9781119816539
• ISBN: 978-1-119-81653-9
• No. of pages: 240
• Subjects: Non-fiction book > Politics, society, business > Business administration, companies; Social sciences, law, business > Business > Business administration; Führung, Business & management, Wirtschaft u. Management, Management f. Führungskräfte, Management / Leadership