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Zusatztext “An exceptional work! not simply just another ‘how to’ book…All parents can use these methods to improve the everyday quality of t heir relationships with their children.” – Fort Worth Star Telegram Informationen zum Autor Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish are #1 New York Times bestselling and award-winning authors whose books have sold more than three million copies and have been translated into over thirty languages. How to Talk So Kids Can Learn—At Home and in School , was cited by Child Magazine as the “best book of the year for excellence in family issues in education.” The authors’ group workshop programs and videos produced by PBS are currently being used by parent and teacher groups around the world. In addition to their lectures throughout the United States, Canada, and abroad, they have appeared on every major television talk show from The Oprah Winfrey Show to Good Morning America . They currently reside in Long Island, New York and each is the parent of three children. Klappentext A books for all parents who want to create a great atmosphere in the family, in which to communicate and educate their kids. Includes many examples of real situations. It has been translated into 20 languages. Vietnamese translation by Tran Thi Huong Lan. In Vietnamese. Distributed by Tsai Fong Books, Inc. "An exceptional work, not simply just another 'how to' book...All parents can use these methods to improve the everyday quality of t heir relationships with their children." -"Fort Worth Star Telegram" Leseprobe 1| Helping Children Deal with Their Feelings PART I I was a wonderful parent before I had children. I was an expert on why everyone else was having problems with theirs. Then I had three of my own. Living with real children can be humbling. Every morning I would tell myself, “Today is going to be different,” and every morning was a variation of the one before: “You gave her more than me!” . . . “That’s the pink cup. I want the blue cup.” . . . “This oatmeal looks like throw-up.” . . . “He punched me.” . . . “I never touched him!” . . . “I won’t go to my room. You’re not the boss over me!” They finally wore me down. And though it was the last thing I ever dreamed I’d be doing, I joined a parent group. The group met at a local child-guidance center and was led by a young psychologist, Dr. Haim Ginott. The meeting was intriguing. The subject was “children’s feelings,” and the two hours sped by. I came home with a head spinning with new thoughts and a notebook full of undigested ideas: Direct connection between how kids feel and how they behave. When kids feel right, they’ll behave right. How do we help them to feel right? By accepting their feelings! Problem—Parents don’t usually accept their children’s feelings. For example: “You don’t really feel that way.” “You’re just saying that because you’re tired.” “There’s no reason to be so upset.” Steady denial of feelings can confuse and enrage kids. Also teaches them not to know what their feelings are—not to trust them. After the session I remember thinking, “Maybe other parents do that. I don’t.” Then I started listening to myself. Here are some sample conversations from my home—just from a single day. CHILD:Mommy, I’m tired.ME:You couldn’t be tired. You just napped.CHILD:( louder ) But I’m tired.ME:You’re not tired. You’re just a little sleepy. Let’s get dressed.CHILD:( wailing ) No, I’m tired!CHILD:Mommy, it’s hot in here.ME:It’s cold. Keep your sweater on.CHILD:No, I’m hot.ME:I said, “Keep your sweater on!”CHILD:No, I’m hot.CHILD:That TV show was boring.ME:No, it wasn’t. It was very interesting.CHILD:It w...
