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Do you know the signs to look for if you think your partner might be cheating, and what to do about it if he is?
List of contents
Introduction
Who is this book's reader?
The Problem
Why I Had to Write a Book
A Different Kind of Book on Infidelity
It works!
There is hope.
Some Thoughts before We Begin
Chapter 1 Signs, Evidence, and What to Do with It All
Inklings of Infidelity
Go with your gut.
Getting Confirmation
What is an affair, anyway?
Should I confront my betrayer?
Permission, Envision, Decision
Ask Yourself
Chapter 2 Confront or Keep Quiet
Timing
Laying It All Out There
Possible Responses
Now what?
How Things Might Turn Out
What questions am I allowed to ask?
Exercise: How to Structure an Information-Gathering Session
Ask Yourself
A Final Caution
Chapter 3 I've Been Cheated On. Now What?
It's Confirmed . . .
What's normal?
So Many Feelings
Whom to Tell
Don't rewrite history.
Grieving
DO NOT MAKE A DECISION!
Exercise: Dealing with the Questions of Others
So what's next?
Ask Yourself
Chapter 4 "You Want Me to What?"
New Rules
How Things Might Turn Out
Ask Yourself
Chapter 5 Back to a Seminormal Life
Some Common Concerns
A Caution against Becoming a Victim
What if he's staying with me just because he "has to"?
The Tricky Part of Trust (the Second Time Around)
Giving the Relationship an Honest Evaluation
Ask Yourself
Chapter 6 "How Could You!"
Who cheats?
So why do affairs happen?
What makes one relationship more vulnerable than another?
How Unspoken Expectations Can Contribute to an Affair
"I love you, but I'm not in love with you."
Other Contributors to Infidelity
Going Forward
Ask Yourself
Exercise: What are your ideas and expectations for love and relationships?
Chapter 7 So What Was Your Part in All This?
Envision the Conversation
Now what do we do?
What's next?
Ask Yourself
Chapter 8 Decisions and Forgiveness (Yes, It's Required)
Signs that Maybe It's Time to Go
Choosing to Stay for "the Other Reasons"
He still doesn't know what he wants.
You don't want the relationship (but thought you did).
Forgiveness (Oh, no, not that!)
Afterword The End of the Journey:
Stepping Out Together in the New Relationship You Both Have Created
About the Author
Endnotes
About the author
Laurel Wiers is a licensed marriage and family therapist who has been in private practice for over fourteen years. She is both the owner and director of
Lighthouse Counseling in Groton, Connecticut. She received her master's degree from East Carolina University while doing her internship at Duke Medical
Center and has served as an instructor at multiple universities teaching courses on family relations. She has been an expert contributor to articles for
both printed and online magazines such as gURL.com, careerbliss.com, naturalnews.com, and
Military Life magazine to name a few. She has also been interviewed on the subject of infidelity by both authors and radio personalities, including recent radio
interviews by Deborah Jayne East, host of
Relationship 911 on Gfem Talk Show in Atlanta, and Michael Dresser of
The Michael Dresser Show .
Summary
Do you know the signs to look for if you think your partner might be cheating, and what to do about it if he is?
