Love at First Click - The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating

Zusatztext “New to online dating ? Get this book and make it your bible. An experienced online dater ? Get this book and make it your reference guide. Seriously! there’s that much good stuff in it!” Informationen zum Autor Laurie Davis is the founder of eFlirt Expert, an online dating consultancy. Fusing her personal dating successes with her Fortune 500 marketing experience, she now helps singles navigate the intersection of dating and technology. Klappentext One in five relationships starts on an online dating site! yet little advice exists for navigating the complex intersection of flirting and technology. Davis! an online dating coach and founder of eFlirt Expert! provides the ultimate guide to finding love online. Leseprobe Love © First Click CHAPTER 4 —————————— Email Education FLIRTING THROUGH INBOXES Winking is dead. No, not the real-life eye fluttering, but the button you’ll find next to someone’s profile that allows you to show interest in a match. Some sites call it Smiling or Flirting, but regardless it serves the same purpose: to let you gauge interest in someone before investing hours poring over every period of a single clever email sent to their inbox. Years ago, when dating sites first entered the scene, Winking was all the rage. But it has become an increasingly passive action. Consider this: if a Facebook “friend” you’ve never met face-to-face “liked” your status update, would it inspire you to write a detailed email in return? I think not. Needless to say, your first interaction with a clickable mate is often your make-or-break moment and should not come by way of a generic emoticon. It’s unlikely that it will inspire any action . . . in your inbox or otherwise. The truth is that women can sometimes still get away with merely clicking the Wink button—especially hotties with bodies. But if you’re truly interested in a match, you shouldn’t blow your one opportunity with a seemingly meaningless attempt. Isn’t your future partner worth a few sentences?! Of course, the most important reason to ignore Winking online and leave it only to real-life scenarios is “mat-uration,” the saturation of matches like you on a site. The number of singles dating online is growing every day, which means that more and more conversation is happening. You want to make sure that you’re an active participant so you don’t get lost in the shuffle and miss an opportunity with a match simply because his or her inbox is flooded and Winks are automatically deleted. (Trust me, singles do it.) In fact, many eDaters are even savvy enough to spot a generic, template message and get rid of them without so much as a response. To be truly proactive and productive in your digital dating life, you have to click Compose and start typing a message tailored specifically for your cyber-crush’s eyes only. There are four phases of sending messages: first messages, email replies, transitioning offline, and following up. But each needs to be approached differently; let’s break it down. First Emails Sending a first-email flirtation has three purposes: 1. Get a match’s attention. Technology should always work for you, not against you. But the truth is that with so many potential matches online, it’s possible that Mr. or Ms. Right (or Right Now) might not come across your profile. Maybe your profile doesn’t make a cameo until page 10 of their search results. If they sign off after viewing only five pages, they’ll miss you entirely. What you’re saying at the most basic level when you send an email is “I exist, listen up!” 2. Qualify yourself. Vouching for yourself as a qualified match is important. So even though you’ve already created a profile, you...

Product details

• Authors: Laurie Davis
• Publisher: Pocket Books USA
• Languages: English
• Product format: Paperback / Softback
• Released: 08.01.2013
• EAN: 9781451687033
• ISBN: 978-1-4516-8703-3
• No. of pages: 224
• Subjects: Guides > Self-help, everyday life > Partnership, sexuality; Natural sciences, medicine, IT, technology > IT, data processing > Internet