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Numerous reasons cause adopted teenagers to reconnect with their birth family via Facebook, creating new challenges for adoption today and tomorrow. Incorporating theory, practice, anecdotes, metaphors, diagrams, models and case studies, this accessible book, written by an experienced adopter, clearly explains these complex issues.
List of contents
CONTENTS Acknowledgements Contents Introduction and Preframe Chapter Zero: Walking through the issues PART 1: PRE- ADOPTION ISSUES Chapter One: What happens before a child is placed for adoption Chapter Two: Children's Needs through time ? Wall metaphor ? Attachment cycle : secure and disturbed ? Factors influencing development ? Maslow's hierarchy of needs Chapter Three: Toxic Parenting Chapter Four: What do toxic parents lack? ? Emotional Intelligence ? Executive functioning Chapter Five: Empathy ? Empathy Spectrum ? Zero Degrees of Empathy ? Psychopath & Borderline Personality Disorder Chapter Six: Learning and Changing ? Learning Cycle ? Distortions to leaning cycle Chapter Seven Screaming: The Birth Parent Perspective during the removal process ? Before removal ? During removal and the court process ? Grief Cycle Chapter Eight: Trauma ? PTSD ? The body keeps score ? Sensory triggers/ ? Developmental Trauma Disorder Chapter Nine: Brain and Memory ? Brain overview ? Children's Brains ? Adolescents Brains ? Implicit and Explicit Memory Chapter Ten: Trust, Drama Transitions ? Trust formula ? Drama Triangle ? Goodbye Visits ? Learned Helplessness ? PART 2: POST ADOPTION Chapter Eleven: Why Therapeutic Reparenting Chapter Twelve: The truth, the whole unspeakable truth and nothing but the truth Chapter Thirteen: Reframing, Transformation and Sabotage ? Chapter Fourteen: Principles of Contact ? Types and Purpose ? Facilitated contact Chapter Fifteen: Adolescence, It's all about Identity Chapter Sixteen: Still Screaming, More birth parents perspectives Chapter Seventeen: The Adopters Perspective Chapter Eighteen: What's happening now ? Case Studies PART 3: PIECING IT ALL TOGETHER
About the author
Helen Oakwater, the adoptive parent of a sibling group, has worn many different hats in the adoption world. As a trainer, communicator and professional coach she has a unique insight into the adoption and trauma world and incorporates these multiple perspectives into her work.
